A while back, we talked about whether or not it was safe to use sex toys during pregnancy. But even after pregnancy, toys are a great way to take care of yourself. Better yet, they can even help you get back into being intimate with your partner. Whether you’re using them alone or having your partner use them on you, here’s a brief guide to using sex toys after giving birth.
How long should I wait?
First of all, whatever rules your doctor gave you about having sex after pregnancy (how long you should wait, things you should be careful of, etc) apply to sex toys just as they would having sex with your partner. Your body may need a couple weeks to recover– most of the time, doctors and midwives suggest around six weeks. For you, it might be more time depending on the method you used to have your baby. Especially if you’ve had an episiotomy or a Caesarean section, you want to be extra, extra safe.
But sex after baby is a great way to get yourself back to feeling normal after the chaos creating life has had on your body. We recommend starting with toys before having penetrative sex with a partner. Toys can be smaller, they are at your control, and they are body-safe, whereas a penis might contain bacteria. Also, you can’t get pregnant from using a sex toy— which believe it or not, you can get pregnant again from unprotected vaginal sex with a penis a lot sooner than you may think–even if you are breastfeeding.
A warm bath can help your muscles relax and help you explore your body now that the topography might have changed a little bit. Luckily, there are lots of toys out there that are waterproof and completely safe to be used in the bathtub.
Check out our listing of waterproof toys to find something that will make bath time lots of fun! And speaking of lots of fun, did you realize that that stylish rubber ducky above is actually a super discreet vibrator? The I Rub My Ducky – Paris is one of the best discreet bathtub toys out there, not to mention how cute it is!
Silicone-based lubricants are very body-safe and hypoallergenic. Plus, silicone doesn’t absorb like water-based lubes do, which means that it’ll last long and be a lot more comfortable. We have a lot of favorite silicone-based lubes, but two of our favorites are WET Naturals Silky Supreme and ID Millennium.
Check out our list of Best Lubes for Sensitive Skin for more suggestions!
Clitoral toys are great for getting yourself back on the stallion. They aren’t invasive, so they won’t irritate any stitches, plus they feel amazing. For many people, they’re a quick way to orgasm, which can not only provide you with a lot of relief from sexual frustration, but can also help your uterus get back to normal and improve your control over your pelvic floor.
There are plenty of excellent clitoral vibes out on the market. Something small like the Mega Mite Waterproof will be unobtrusive and soothing to your tender bits. Check out our list of best clitoral vibrators for some more suggestions.
You may feel that your pelvic floor post-baby is pretty weak. The old stereotype of post-birth mothers having trouble not peeing their pants while laughing is completely true, and it’s all thanks to your worn out kegel muscles! Luckily, there are toys out there which can not only strengthen your pelvic floor, but also provide you with sexual stimulation.
The Berman Center Isis is a great example of a non-Ben Wa Ball kegel exerciser. At 5” long and only 1” thick, this toy can help you get back in shape in no time, and can be used like a traditional dildo, while still remaining slim enough to prevent any pain.
If you’re interested in the Ben Wa route, we have all kinds of products that are body-friendly and super fun to use. Please check them out in our article, Beads ‘n Balls ‘n Ben Wa, Oh My!