I am currently captivated by this video:
It is amazing to me that women don’t really know what they look like down below. And then I think about myself. And I don’t really know what I look like down below.
Don’t get me wrong. I know what vaginas look like. I have pictures of them all over my desk because I work at Spicy Gear and I can get away with that. They’re nice pictures– beautiful and anatomical drawings from a pro-vulva movement, and they’re all different shapes and colors and sizes. And I appreciate them for their differences. But I’ve never really looked at nor appreciated mine.
In particular, I love when the woman with the pink hair says that it looks innocent. Given the rough history she told the camera about before– with the boy who said it was ugly– it feels like a nice conclusion and I’m sure it’s given her a giant boost of confidence.
Women are saturated with images about how we’re supposed to look. And it’s not just our clothed bodies either. Mainstream adult films tend to sway towards a particular type of vulva. And those vulvas are beautiful– but so are bigger ones, ones with long labia, thick bushes, darker labia and clitorises, and everything in between.
If part of loving yourself is loving the way you look, go home tonight and take a good look at yourself in the mirror. Not your face, or your hair, or even your butt. Take a peek downstairs and appreciate what you find, especially if you’ve never done it before. It’s an area of your body you use every day (for sex or not). Get to know it.